ASSERTIVENESS AND ANGER MANAGEMENT

People need skills in speaking up for themselves while respecting the views, feelings and rights of others. They also need to manage anger, not just suppress it or express it impulsively. Without these skills, effective communication and conflict management are stifled by uncommunicated ideas and anger expressed openly or passively.

Assertiveness and Anger Management Assessment
If you answer "Yes" to 4 or more of the questions below, OR if you have a strong "Yes, that describes me perfectly!" reaction to even one or two questions, you will benefit from counseling for Assertiveness and Anger Management.

1. Do you often feel that expressing your thoughts and feelings openly would be "mean" or "impolite?"
2. Do you hold the attitude that you have a right to express yourself (including your anger) almost any time or in any way you wish?
3. Do you often feel you have something to say, but don't say it because you can't find the words or think you will express it poorly?
4. Have people who are honest with you and care about you told you that you are either too unexpressive or too angry and hot-tempered?
5. Do you have a pattern of holding feelings and opinions in a long time, then having a "blow-up?"
6. Do you at times excuse anger outbursts by saying "It's a natural reaction," "I had no choice" or that someone "made me lose my temper?"
7. Do you hold an attitude that expressing complaints or issues politely and respectfully, without anger, is "wimpy" or will not be heard?
8. Do you see yourself, or have you been described by others, as "almost always avoiding conflict?"
9. Are there certain people in your life who you feel control, manipulate, intimidate or "guilt" you a lot?
10. Are you concerned that if you start expressing yourself you will lose control or will be disliked?

 COPYRIGHT PEAK OF SUCCESS 2004

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